Transition to College 101 如何帮助我们的孩子进入大学

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夏末秋初, 有学龄孩子的家庭都会考虑下一个学年的事.无论孩子是升高二三,还是应届毕业既将去大学读书,家长们都会在想在问,怎样帮助孩子进入大学校园呢? 从我們多年來为学生和学生家长们做咨询的工作经验中,以及美高校咨询中心联合调查结果的资料来看,每年秋季(Oct/Nov), 健康咨询中心便进入了一个高峰期,学生以Academic stress, Anxiety and Depression 来咨询的最多. 在与学生咨询交流的过程中发现,有一个良好自律性的学生would overcome his or her difficulties better, and in long term would be good for life, for all aspects of health and growth. 以下文章是从childmind.org节选下來的,许多与我們现实咨询工作很相配(无论是华人或非华人), 帮助孩子上大学的要点: 帮助孩子准备上大学,不仅仅是学业上的准备,还要有情感上的准备,更主要的是生活自理上的准备。 (more…)
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Transition to College 101 如何帮助我们的孩子进入大学

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睡眠卫生:邻居的孩子再过一个月就要离开家,她的媽媽问我,这一个月來,她能做些什么,來让她女兒更好地适应大学。知道这位年轻人和我们社会区高中生们,我说,如果能够帮助她自律睡眠,將是个重要的一步。 在美的青少年Delayed Sleep Phase 是非常普遍:推迟入眠时间,由于各种原因, 其中social media, 手机light...当孩子们在高中住在家里,有校车和父母的”监督”或”限制”再睏也要爬起来去上学。到了大学,这些(我们所说的”structure”) 没有了, 不少新生struggled or even failed academic work. 睡眠卫生与心理卫生有着不可分开关系:没有良好的睡眠会导致身心的疾病,许多underline 精神疾患也是从睡眠不良开始的: (more…)
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Don’t try to ‘fix’ every problem

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Many of us have grown used to jumping in at the first sign that our child is distressed, to come to the rescue. “The first thing parents should do is stop trying to fix things,” says David Romano, a psychotherapist and member of Active Minds, an advocacy organization that works to encourage open discussion of mental health on college campuses, to avoid suicides. Romano, who sees a lot of college-bound adolescents, says that what teens need to hear, especially when they’re feeling depressed, anxious or overwhelmed, is that “It’s okay not to feel okay.” The goal is to validate their feelings, but not solve their problems. When parents notice that their teen is in distress, Dr. Giller suggests responses like: “I see you’re really struggling right now.” “I’m guessing that this…
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Develop strategies for self-soothing

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Even with a good foundation in practicing time management skills and “coping ahead,” there are going to be times when your teen will feel overwhelmed. But, borrowing from DBT skills, you and your child can make a plan for what to do when difficult emotions are threatening to take over. “They can come up with a written plan that includes weighing the pros and cons and thinking through consequences,” says Dr. Giller. “And then they can take a picture of it on their phone and have easy access to it when they anticipate or experience something that may be challenging.” The goal is a toolbox of things to try when they are feeling highly emotional or overwhelmed — things that will make them feel better instead of spinning out of…
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College mental health skills

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So how do we prepare our kids for the rigors and life challenges that college brings? One increasingly popular answer is teaching them skills derived from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). DBT was originally designed for adults with borderline personality disorder, who experience extreme emotional instability. But DBT skills are, more and more, being used successfully to treat almost any kind of emotional dysregulation. While traditional DBT is an intensive, highly structured program, Drs. Giller and Macchia note that basic DBT skills can be adapted to help prepare incoming college students to better handle the challenges of college. What would that look like? “Near the end of high school,” explains Dr. Macchia, “parents can shift the family dynamic to encourage kids to be more independent, and practice emotional regulation and problem-solving skills for…
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“Preparing for College emotionally, not Just academically”

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Juliann Garey is a journalist, novelist and clinical assistant professor at NYU. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Los Angeles Times and Marie Claire; her novel, Too Bright To Hear Too Loud To See, was an American Library Association award-winner and NPR Best Book of the Year in 2013. Tuition isn’t the only thing that’s relentlessly on the rise on American college campuses. Multiple studies show a significant increase in college mental health problems in the last few years, and campus counseling services report being overwhelmed with students seeking help. Why so much emotional distress, especially during the first year away from home? Everything from academic pressure to over-protective parenting to excessive engagement in social media has been blamed for the spike in anxiety and depression. What’s clear is that adolescents making the…
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